But hey it happens. We’ve all had that sinking feeling in the pits of our stomachs or just had a feeling. This is of course one of the main reasons I retired from dating. I just fervently believe that if you work hard and put a lot of energy into something, you should at least get a return on your investment, right?
So the second date never happened, I know – I was totally surprised too. But the truth of the matter is I knew it on the third day, more so on the fourth day and finally by Friday when he didn’t call that I was history. My heart fluttered then sank. He was giving me the “Silent Bob” a sure sign ladies that he is “just not that into you”. And there is nothing you can do about it though some women have been suggesting that we confront the men that never call us again and force them to say, “I AM JUST NOT IN TO YOU”. Or as Steve Harvey says, “if you want closure, then close”. Not sure who is right here.
What to do when you discover he’s just not that into you?
Of course I play by my own rules. I called him to make sure he wasn’t lying in a ditch somewhere, I so hoped he was – in a ditch. Alec confirmed that we must have crossed our signals and we rescheduled for the following week but even then I knew. His mouth was saying YES! but his everything else was screeching NO!
Let’s review:
- Has not communicated since date 1
- Never calls
- Never emails
- Not even the dreaded text
I recieved an awesome invite for dinner with an out of town guest for the same night we were supposed to go out and wanted to make sure we were on for our evening so I called. Alec was less than excited during our call – he seemed almost annoyed.
I didn’t see any point in prolonging the inevitable. So I donned my big girl panties and declined our pending date by email – didn’t think I could hide my disappointment over the phone. After a brief exchange of emails my New Year’s could be sumthin’, sumthin’ was nothin’, nothin’. While he did say he was just going through some things and his head was not in the game, I think he is a really nice guy that doesn’t have a lot of experience ditching chicks.
So what next, you say. Since I am officially retired from dating, I don’t have an answer. I am not sure if I want to put myself out there – AGAIN. I don’t want my friends to think I am the Michael Jordan of dating. Didn’t he retire, like 7 times?
But then again…
He could call again ….
Someday, right?
Stop laughing!
He’s just not that into you! is the best book on dating I’ve ever read. The cold hard truth I wish I had had when I first stated dating.
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