I received a tiny little text today from one of my BFF’s saying that she was headed home, which is across the country. She said she’d call during her lay over. I felt such on overwhelming sense of sadness. She’s been here visiting in California for a few months while recouping from an injury, which means we have been burning up the phone lines. So rarely are we in same time zone. I hadn’t even remembered to say goodbye and I’ll miss you. Perhaps that was on purpose, not wanting to remember she was leaving. Over the past 20 years we have had our share of ups and downs and some serious falling outs but no one seems to get me like she does, no one laughs louder at my jokes or cries harder with me. She is outraged for me when some brother does me wrong and quick to tell me when I’m wrong. The other day I commented on female relationships being as easy as breathing. She adamantly disagreed. Either way here are some tips to being a better friend:
- Spend quality time together.
- Make your friendship a priority.
- Be there for the good, the bad and the ugly.
- Don’t keep score.
- Notice the little stuff.
- Focus on the positive, this also mean, no judgment.
- Don’t give too little.
- Know when to listen.
- Know when to laugh.
- Be honest.
Nos. 2 and 7 are deal breakers for me. I don’t have time for fair-weather friends, only a few select people that I really trust and care about are called friends. Priority doesn’t mean call me everyday with your sandwich order. I only see my BFF Carmen sometimes once a year but if she called at 3 am in distress, I’d take the gun and the cannoli. Why would you need more than that?
And friends that take, take, take and give nothing in return make me edgy, silent and an ex-friend. I have an invisable scale, when you begin to tip it in the wrong direction….I suddenly have a dentist appointment every time you call.
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